When you do something multiple times, you likely know how things are going to go by the 3rd time. Am I right?
Unfortunately, pregnancy is not one of those predictable activities that you know exactly what to expect. Each one is unique and unpredictable in its own way.
We know this thanks to countless articles telling us that every pregnancy is different. I’m here to add on to that and say it’s true! My third pregnancy has been different in ways that I never expected and I knew I had to share for my fellow mommas out there!
Here are 7 unexpected differences in my 3rd pregnancy!
1. Sharing the news feels different.
When you set out to share the news of your third pregnancy, something seems far less sensational.
The first pregnancy announcement is generally a huge shock, and you’re busting at the seams waiting for the 2nd trimester to tell the world. People are thrilled to hear your news and start asking when is the gender reveal and the baby shower.
By the second pregnancy, people are still excited for you and they kind of expect it. Two kids is the American dream right? If you don’t have another right away, people will start asking you when you will!
Then the third pregnancy happens and while your family and friends are thrilled for you, it’s less sensational. And that’s okay!
There will always be the people that ask why you wanted more. Are you trying for a boy, if you have two girls? Was it an accident? So on and so forth. Luckily, no one has said anything like that…to my face.
2. You start showing sooner.
Hello baby bump! By your 3rd baby, your uterus is like, “Don’t worry! I’ve got this momma!” With each pregnancy, you definitely start to show sooner.
By the third time around, your abdominal muscles have been stretched out a couple of times, so your body knows what to do. It starts making room for baby pretty early on making it more difficult to conceal.
Here’s my 12 week bump comparison with each pregnancy.
3. You may gain weight faster.
Just like with showing sooner, there’s a good chance you’ll gain weight faster with your third pregnancy. This doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll end up gaining more, but it may come on a bit quicker with each subsequent pregnancy.
For starters, you may be starting your pregnancy at a higher weight than your first or second. (This isn’t always the case!) But if you have a small window of time between pregnancies, it can be hard to get back to your pre-baby weight.
After your first pregnancy, you also have way more to deal with. You already have a little one and likely a husband and a home to take care of making eating healthy hard while growing a human.
Another reason is because every pregnancy is different! No two pregnancies are the same, so you’re likely to gain weight at a different rate. Like I mentioned above, you start showing earlier because you’re body carries baby lower which can lead to a different type of weight gain.
Personally and I know this isn’t the case for most women, but with each pregnancy my nausea has decreased. I had almost constant nausea that started at 6 weeks and lasted until 17-18 weeks with my first. My second pregnancy, I dealt with nausea for weeks 6 to 11. This third pregnancy, I didn’t deal with morning sickness at all really! Occasional nausea, but that’s about it.
That lack of nausea meant I didn’t lose any weight at the beginning of my pregnancy, so I started gaining much earlier. No matter what, just know that your body is doing the work it needs to in order to grow your baby!
4. Time flies by
This unexpected “symptom” in your 3rd pregnancy may be a bit of a no brainer. I mean, you’re busy chasing after two other children! Each pregnancy has gone by faster than the one before.
The first pregnancy seems to drag on. By the end, you may go on maternity leave a bit before your due date thinking that baby may come early — and likely does not.
The second pregnancy, you are chasing around your first child busy taking them to activities and play dates. You know to expect to go longer or maybe you have a scheduled c-section or induction based on your first birth.
One the third comes around, you’re possibly wanting time to slow down. Okay maybe not quite that fast. But you’re other kids are involved in activities, school and whatever else they have going on. You’re taking them to practice and running around getting everything they need making your pregnancy go much faster.
5. Your body starts hurting early on.
For my third pregnancy, I started experiencing mild sciatica pain at 14 weeks. 14 weeks y’all! With my first, it was closer to the end of pregnancy and even with my second it wasn’t until late second trimester. 14 weeks seemed early!
Needless to say, it’s continued to get worse from there! Each subsequent pregnancy takes a slightly harder toll on your body.
Not only has your body been stretched out before, but you’re also older. I hate to say it, but it’s the truth. You older, stretched out body doesn’t handle pregnancy the way it did the first go around.
The best thing you can do to get your belly and back support brace, rest when you can, get massages and listen to any advice your doctor has for you!
In fact, check out these 3rd trimester must haves. They’ve been life savers for me, and I started using several in my first and second trimesters this third go around.
6. The hormones are no joke.
Let’s be real, hormones are intense every pregnancy. I just feel like mine get even more intense with each pregnancy.
Not only do the hormones themselves seem heightened with each pregnancy, but the emotions and worries also grow each time you add a baby.
During your first pregnancy, your emotions revolve around the changes coming into your life and relationship. Fast forward to the next pregnancy, you still have those same worries as well as how the new baby will effect your first baby. Then you get to the third and you have two children, a partner, likely a home and possibly pets to worry about while you’re at it!
If you happen to be pregnant in 2020 (like me), you have the added stresses of COVID-19, quarantine, social distancing and so much more added to your plate.
A combination of raging pregnancy hormones, familial worries and stresses of life just add up each time you get pregnant.
7. You don’t really need any more baby things. Or at least, that’s what you think.
If you’re like me and have one of each gender, your initial thought is that you don’t need anything at all! You have baby boy and girl clothes along with all the gadgets that came with those babies. Who needs a shower or more baby things?
At the same time, you find yourself wanting new things. As you start to go through your old baby items, you’re realizing how many outfits are stained or that the seasons are completely off. Maybe you need new covers for your breastfeeding pillow or Doc a Tot.
You don’t need anything big like a crib, swing, pack n play or toys. But if your family and family want to throw you a shower or sprinkle, just say yes. I realize that you “don’t need anything”, but the second you start going through things you’ll wish that you had a few new things.
Remember, every pregnancy and every baby deserves to be celebrated, so accept it if it’s offered to you!
It’s harder in different ways than the first two.
Moral of the story is that by your third pregnancy, even if you think you’ve got it all down, it’s going to be unexpectedly different. It will be harder in some ways and easier in others.
You kind of know what to expect, but your body, emotions and baby will likely throw you some curveballs along the way.You just have to take everything that it throws at you with grace. At least as much grace as a pregnant woman can muster!
These unexpected differences in your 3rd pregnancy are likely to be different for every woman. Most of all, it’s just important to know that in the end, it’s going to be different.
Just for fun, here are a few of my pregnancy posts from my first two!
Time to weigh in mommas, how have you third (or even second) pregnancies been unexpectedly different?
Let me know in the comments!